Bruised. Battered. Betrayed. In 2018 two million adults between 16 and 59 were bruised domestically by partners. 37% of pregnant women battered by their Husbands. Men are betrayed by their wives as 5% now suffer domestic abuse during their lives. The police are making more arrests so why aren\u2019t victims coming forward? Well partly because, of the humorous attitude taken towards domestic abuse. Men are only just beginning to talk about mental health making this prospect even harder. Women find this prospect difficult also with the fear of people like that \u2018judging and not believing\u2019. You may think if it\u2019s that bad why don\u2019t you just leave? Do people forget you can\u2019t just fall out of love; feel no different like when the seasons change. Abusers are clever, they know how to isolate you from friends\/family, they\u2019ll apologize\/say it\u2019s a one of and in some cases there\u2019s the children to think about. Domestic abuse: exercising power and control physically, emotionally, sexually but wait it\u2019s never that simple with an abusive partner. Financial abuse is becoming very common today. You could share a joint account with your partner who is preventing you access for basic resources e.g. food\/ clothes. You think of leaving then worry: where would you live? How would you pay your bills? What sort of life would your children have? Still people ask the question \u2018why don\u2019t you just leave?\u2019 It could affect anybody: races, genders, sexualities everyday somebody. Bruised. Battered. Betrayed.<\/p>\n
Factors such as jealousy, desire for control and taking pain out on others could potentially be triggers of somebody becoming abusive. When conducting research, I was horrified to find an option of \u2018what causes men to be abusive\u2019 in my search bar. Can\u2019t women have these factors too? In a recent domestic abuse case, a young man became isolated and imprisoned as his girlfriend confined him to the house. Stabbing, burning, striking him constantly. She prevented him using social media isolating him from friends\/family, showing women can be controlling. She told him his Grandad had died which was untrue, showing women can be jealous. She poured boiling water down his back in anger, showing women can take their feelings out on others. You may tease your mate because, his wife has given him a black eye saying he isn\u2019t a real man but if a man slapped a woman the man would be a tyrant; as children are taught it\u2019s never okay to hit a woman. If we want Gender equality, we must accept that hitting a partner isn\u2019t okay no matter what their gender. Feminism has done wonderous things for our country we\u2019ve realised it isn\u2019t 1919 anymore 1920 came and wife beating was made illegal. Please don\u2019t make your attitudes reverse thinking it\u2019s okay to hit men by 2020.<\/p>\n
Isn\u2019t it nauseating that women beating was once legal? Nauseating because, children learn what love and the joy of family is from parents. Not all families are paradise! Out of respect to victims and their children who have experienced\/ witnessed Domestic Abuse I think arguments between parents should happen away from children. No child wants to hear the people who taught them what love is shouting; being hateful towards each other. It only hurts them and creates patterns of learnt behaviour. I think it\u2019s time to end this now as one in seven children live with Domestic abuse during their childhood.<\/p>\n
Although it\u2019s never as simple as you should just pack a bag and leave there are ways to get yourself out of danger. A woman died thinking she knew how to work the silent solution system, thinking help would be sent for and she\u2019d survive. She believed just dialing 999 and not speaking would still send for the police however, without pressing \u201855\u2019 the police weren\u2019t sent for and she was devastatingly killed by her ex-partner. This tragedy inspired the police to create the new campaign \u2018Get yourself heard\u2019 spreading the need to press 55 so that help does come, causing a sense of relief to flood through our streets but not everybody knows about it. So, spread the word to dial 999 and press 55 and lives will be saved because of you.<\/p>\n
Article first appeared in Grimsby Telegraph 28th May 2019.<\/em><\/p>\n Article by Young Reporter Charlotte<\/strong><\/p>\n\n Latest article by a Young Reporter. This looks at the heartbreak caused by domestic violence. Read on.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"xn-wppe-expiration":[],"xn-wppe-expiration-action":[],"xn-wppe-expiration-prefix":[],"spay_email":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false},"categories":[369,11],"tags":[626],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p3cThd-5rB","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"amp_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/vanel.org.uk\/va\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20931"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/vanel.org.uk\/va\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/vanel.org.uk\/va\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/vanel.org.uk\/va\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/vanel.org.uk\/va\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20931"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"http:\/\/vanel.org.uk\/va\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20931\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":20933,"href":"http:\/\/vanel.org.uk\/va\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20931\/revisions\/20933"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/vanel.org.uk\/va\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20931"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/vanel.org.uk\/va\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20931"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/vanel.org.uk\/va\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20931"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}